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3 Steps To A Strong Family

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3 Steps To A Strong Family

 

Note that this book already has a great outline at the start of the book. These notes are simply intended to provide some of the more important details that are not in that outline.

 

The five laws of the Eyre family

1. PEACE: Don't fight. Don't lose your temper or yell.

2. ASKING: Don't go somewhere or do something outside the normal schedule without asking and getting permission.

3. ORDER: Take care of things and don't leave messes for other people to clean up.

4. RESPECT: Be polite and respect other people's rights, views, and property.

5. OBEDIENCE: You parents will try to explain why you need to do something, but in the end, you need to do it. (Commentary: Interesting to see how Kohn might disagree with this law).

 

These laws were set up when the youngest child was 3.

 

Decision Making

Decisions are harder than simply obeying a law because they involve choices.

 

Let children start making decisions about earning, saving, and spending money as early as age 8.

 

Help them make a list of decisions in advance to help prepare them for dangerous or difficult situations. This way they have the time and perspective to make the right decision.

 

Really spell out all the circumstances that will make it difficult to make the right decision.

 

The child can then sign the decisions as a contract with himself (not the parent).

 

The Family Economy (start when a child is 5 years old)

An economy includes:

- Ways for children to earn their own money

- Ways to save, invest, and earn interest

- Ways to spend money wisely and perceive ownership

 

To set up the economy, set up a peg system that includes all the household tasks. Have a discussion on how best to divide up the work. Finish by assigning the tasks.

 

The simple solution the Eyre family ended up with was giving each child three tasks:

1. Keping their own room tidy

2. Keping one other "zone" tidy

3. Doing one kitchen job at dinnertime

 

The first peg is the morning peg for whatever the kids need to do in the morning.

 

The second peg is the homework peg, which goes in after the work is completed.

 

The third peg is the zone peg, which covers the cleaning and the kitchen work.

 

The last peg is the evening peg, for washing, brushing teeth, and getting in bed by bedtime.

 

The pegs should only be used for weekdays.

 

Payday: Pay a certain amount per peg, with double pay for completing all 20 pegs that week.

 

Other ways to earn money:

Set up a job auction each Saturday to accomplish weekend tasks.

In the summer time, set up long-term goals and offer bonuses for achieving them.

 

Provide a family bank that offers interest on deposits. (e.g. 5% per quarter)

Try to establish a habit of saving 10% of income before spending anything.

 

Let children buy their own clothes with their money.

 

Help them set up budgets.

 

Eventually, give kids a checkbook so that they can track their own balances.

 

Family traditions:

Birthdays, holidays, other annual traditions

Family vacations

Family majors and minors--yearly goals or interests to concentrate on as a family (e.g. music).

 

Monthly reviews of each child. How are they doing: Physically, Socially, Mentally, Emotionally?

Alone time with each parent.

 

Family night.

 

Dinnertime verbal games.

 

Journals, letters, reading aloud, and poetry.

 

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